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How To Dress Just For You

The rules of dressing for yourself. For a long time now, I’ve been somewhat obsessed with this idea of personal style vs. fashion and how what we wear represents our personalities. I’ve been guilty of clicking on posts with headings like: Dress like a Parisian or How to have effortless style, even when I know that I wont get much out of the article and that there wont be a magic pill, I still can’t help but search.

Let’s say that I was to put on a fabulous taffeta skirt in the evening with heels and a sparkly top. I would probably shine. Then let’s say that I would turn around, pair it with with a pair of sneakers and throw a chunky knit over top, would it still be fabulous and Instagram worthy or would I just look ridiculous? When it comes to style, these are issues that I struggle with.
While I had jobs that required me to go into an office every day (and for a few I needed to be dressed more conservatively), at the moment, my days are filled with writing. So naturally, I’m wearing my sweats all day (just being honest). When I need to run out or take my dog for a walk then it’s t-shirts and denim time. So when exactly am I supposed to hone in on my style? How am I supposed to curate it and look fabulous every day, even when I don’t feel like it?

the rules of dressing for yourself


The uniform. Wearing a self-imposed uniform of sorts has been a popular headline lately and I admit that I’m intrigued. Gone are the days when I used to wear lace-up, knee-high boots and mini skirts that left nothing to the imagination. Now, it’s usually more basic pieces that require a lot less effort. Boring, right? Not so fast. I remember when I was still in high school, I had a number of friends who went to a catholic school which required a very strict uniform. Somehow, even thought they all wore blue plaid skirts and white button down shirts, each one looked totally unique. You could tell who had more of a punk vibe, who was more interested in fashion and who was a jock. So this leaves me to conclude that it’s all about how we choose to wear our clothes (shirt tucked in, half tucked, hanging out or long skirt, midi length or mini) and also, what accessories we choose. A pair of sneakers will give your outfit one style, flats another style. The jewelry or bag you choose will give it a completely different look, but this also extends to how we do our makeup and hair. So essentially, two friends can show up wearing pretty much the exact same thing, yet look totally different and even unique.

Does it make you smile? They say that you should only wear items that make you smile. That sounds like a fantastic idea, as I don’t want to wear pieces that I don’t like, but then again when I know that I’m going to be spending my day writing, I don’t want to ruin my good clothes. Frankly, I can’t see myself sitting around in said taffeta skirt when I’m in the house. What I can do, however, is look for better fabrics, prints or even textures. I have a t-shirt that’s fairly plain, it’s a dark grey boat-neck, but it’s made from bamboo and I seriously feel like I’m slipping a cloud onto my body when I put it on. Right away, I notice that I’m more confident and inspired to maybe put on a pretty necklace when I leave the house and suddenly, with zero effort and not much thought on my part, that basic tee is completely transformed.

Be yourself. I think this is a hard one to follow because it seems that we are constantly being told who we have to be. So let’s forget all of that because to some degree, who cares? If you want to wear a sparkly, sequined top with your jeans today then why shouldn’t you? It’s all within reason, of course, but why not relax the parameters of our boxes? I have a fabulously huge cocktail ring that I just love. I’ve put it on during the day (of course, I had a comment or two from “well meaning” family members), and I don’t wear it too often because I’m self conscious. The crazy thing is that I bought the ring because I saw it on a random salesgirl and knew right then and there that I had to have it.

Love the imperfect. I find that the most beautiful and memorable people are the ones who embrace their imperfections and that extends to what they wear. The person who shows up always looking flawless without a hair out of place is kind of boring. Instead of being so uptight about everything being exactly how it “should be,” maybe it’s worthwhile to relax a little, to show some spirit and be more carefree about what we are wearing, while still paying attention to the details like cut and fit.

Accept the change. This one makes me a little bit sad because there are outfits that I had and loved that I can no longer wear. The truth is that now I look kind of ridiculous in them, almost like I’m trying too hard. I think if we were all given a very specific timeline of what to wear at what age then it would be so much easier. The fact is that it’s different for everyone and largely dependent on your lifestyle and where you live. The “is this appropriate” question totally blind-sided me. It was as if one day I woke up and realized that I needed to start implementing changes to my wardrobe. Diving in head first, I realized that there is a new world opening up right in front of me. In fact, much of what I now want to buy is better quality and has a better fit than what I was choosing before.

Don’t follow the rules. I honestly can’t believe that I still see articles about how it’s okay to wear white after Labor Day. Is that really still a thing? So why do we create rules around everything? I remember someone being totally shocked that a friend of mine wanted her bridesmaids to wear black. You know what, we set her and her dress off beautifully. Of course, there are occasions where it’s more appropriate to wear something more or less formal, but there are is so much room to move rather than being bound to arbitrary, externally-imposed constraints.

the rules of dressing for yourself

While I want everyone to feel free to express themselves in whatever way they want, there are a few hard and fast rules that do need to be followed, like the fit and quality of what you are wearing. On the flip side of this though, following this one fit and quality rule will make what you do choose to wear that much better!

What are your thoughts on dressing for yourself?

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Caroline has worked with international designers in fashion retail and completed professional makeup courses when working in the beauty industry. Her love of writing, photography and film inspired her to work at the Canadian Film Center and then to earn a BFA in Screenwriting. In addition to her blog, Style On The Side, you can see her work in Huffington Post Canada and other international websites.

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  1. Linda Manns Linneman

    I love dressing to fit my own personality. I do watch the fashion trends and if it is something I like and it looks good on me, then I will buy it. I don’t buy just because it is the trend. Thank you so much for this great article

    1. Thank you! I totally agree, there are some things that I see and love but I know they won’t fit with anything in my wardrobe so I pass them up and usually find something better!

  2. This is a great article! I find myself lately just wanting to become lazier and lazier with my dressing and style- thank goodness I have some sort of developed uniform as my go -to outfit (y’know, leggings or skinny jeans, funky shoes and an oversized shirt). I like what you said about accessories changing an outfit completely- this morning at work I arrived with jeans, a tee and beautiful flatform sandals. By the time the afternoon hit I was feeling run down, I tied up my hair and opted for sneakers on my feet instead. It totally changed my mood, how I was feeling and everything. Dressing for yourself is so important, especially how the clothes wear have such a huge impact on how we feel.

    1. Oh I love that you shared this! Thank you! Yesterday I went out to dinner but it had just rained and I was exhausted so I opted for my skinny jeans, grey tee and topped it with fabulous lariat necklace and it just worked plus I was super comfortable.

  3. Great article! I experienced it when I started my maternity leave. I spent a lot of time at home, I went out almost only for walks with my baby and my dog. I had a lot of nice clothes for work and for going out, but nothing for everyday at home. Earlier at home I just wore some old clothes. It didn’t bother me to walk the dog without any make-up. Something had to change. I couldn’t spend the whole time wearing some old clothes and no make-up. So I bought a few pairs of comfortable and good quality leggings and nice T-shirts and used at least mascara every day. I felt good and well dressed. Now I’m working from home, so I’ve bought a few basic and comfortable items of clothes: they always look good and from time to time I love to add some crazy accessories, e.g. a bag or colorful shoes. And for the first time I feel that I have my own style, earlier I just had a lot of various clothes, without any idea.

    1. Wow thank you so much for this! I totally understand. Even if I didn’t have a baby when I transitioned to working from home I went through something very similar. It’s tough to find your style when you are at home all the time. Thanks so much for your amazing comment!

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